I had the honor to officiate over a marriage between a couple this last weekend who had been together for 12 years. As we wrote and I recited their ceremony there was a statement within it that I have repeated many times, yet on this day made so much sense and my heart deeply smiled for them.
"This celebration is but an outward sign of an inward union of heart, mind and spirit. This is a celebration of the joining of two hearts in love..two souls already attuned to on another." And it goes on to pronounce that this celebration and ceremony between these two people is fitting that an outer acknowledgment be made.
The year of planning for the travel here to California (they live in Canada), the emails to myself and others making arrangments for this very day was countless. Designing and coordinating the colors, wedding day attire, the reception, the organization of love ones and little ones' travel, coming to our very own Huntington Beach seaside to make their "outward sign of an inward union of heart, mind and spirit".
When deciding if you are ready to make this next step of commitment, marriage, please take each other's needs, dreams, desires, parenting styles, business styles (money, bill paying, priorities, work ethics, etc.) just to name a few into consideration. Talk about them with open ears and minds. Remember, that each one of you have similar and different ways of thinking around these subjects. From our family of orgin's teachings to our thinking style (you can learn out more about thinking styles, natual way you and/or your partner's brains are wired by visiting focusedcoach.com ) can and will affect our union with our life partners.
Marriage goes beyond the legal status of marriage, it is a life commitment of lovers, friends, companions, partners, decision makers, who truly understand the inward union of heart, mind and spirit of all the these areas of their relationship.
May your jouney truly be blessed. Do not hesitate to email me with any comments or questions. Jacqueline